If necessary, review the section of chapter eight that highlights the famous marshmallow experiment of the 1960s. Then, watch this video of children who just can't seem to fight the urge to stay away from the marshmallow:
What can we do to become more emotionally intelligent when things don't go our way? Respond to this question regarding the three examples below:
Lindsay Miller A good way to become more emotionally intelligent is to be a more positive person overall. Being happy always makes me forget about little things that don't typically matter. In example one the dog is obviously upset because someone got in front of him without a blinker, however if he was smart with his emotions he wouldn't have to get upset over something so little. In example two as well as example three they are putting their blame on someone who doesn't deserve the blame instead of taking in consideration that possibly it could be their fault.
Becoming more emotionally intelligent can possibly be hard for some people who are not emotionally stable. Although there is obviously a better outlook for everything you do, and for every way you handle a situation. In example number 1, there is a dog that has road rage and is upset because the person in front of him did not use their blinker. I would tell the dog, to not get upset over it, because nothing happened. He is fine. Sometimes people make mistakes, and forget things, so if he was more understanding about the situation, he wouldn't have to be so upset and angry about it. In example number 2 there is a person who is saying there is nothing wrong with them, and that it is all their partners fault. In order to be more emotionally intelligent about it, I would tell this person to look at the whole picture. To think about their actions, instead of completely putting someone else down, saying everything is their fault. Being emotionally intelligent can also mean understanding your faults. In example number 3 the student is blaming the teacher for her bad grade. I would tell this student that the teacher did not take the test or do the assignment for her. She needs to take responsibility for her actions, and emotionally accept the fact that she did not get the grade she wanted, instead of throwing fingers at her teacher. She needs to get intact with her emotions, not get so angry at the teacher who is obviously there to help and teacher her, and realize that it is her own fault, and she could of done better on her own. Danielle O'Bryant GUST 0305:707
It is important for everyone to become emotionally intelligent. In the first picture it shows a cause of road rage and sometimes when people throw hand signs to another person or say something they can get into a fight or even shot. Its very important to always choose our battles, If we took a deep breath or said something to ourselves it would save us the trouble. In the second picture the man it proving that he has to much pride to admit that its him causing problems in the relationship. Instead of blaming her he could sit down and talk to her about why the relationship is not working. In the last picture a student is blaming the teacher, this happens a lot with students are the cause of their own failing grades. instead of the student automatically assuming it is the teacher, he or she could talk to the teacher and ask why they failed an assignment. Jenise D. Gust 0305.707
A better way to be emotionally intelligent is to see things in a positive outcome. As in the first picture shows a road rage from a dog but what that dog should be thinking well nothing happen I should just calm down don't let your emotions control you Example #2 It shows two couples but one is blaming the other this shows an emotional intelligence instead of blaming sit down and talk about both realize and look at the big picture. Example #3 show that the student is throwing fingers and blaming the teacher for her bad grade but what she should be blaming is herself because she did her own test and assignments. The blaming teachers happen a lot but is because the rage of anger they have just point fingers. Zurisaddai Ocampo GUST 0305.707
We can become more emotionally intelligent with anger by choosing our battles. Like in the example it shows a dog mad that someone did not turn on their blinker. This can easily be solved by being thankful everyone is okay, and deciding if it is really that big of a deal to get so mad over something that is not a big deal.We can become more emotionally intelligent while dealing with owning up to our own mistakes. This can be fixed by being completely honest with ones self and their action. We can deal with depression and anxiety through emotional intelligence by finding a solution to the problem at hand. Also you can choose to be more optimistic in life so that you are not constantly down and out.
We can become more emotional intelligent by not letting the little things anger us. Also not so much blaming other people for the same things you might do. In example #1, yelling at someone who doesn't use their blinker does you no good. In fact most of the people that yell at other divers for not doing something are also guilty of not doing the same things drivers need to do. In example #2, the couple is shown breaking up and saying "its not you its me" Instead they should be talking about what the problem was and if they want to fix it then they figure out a way to fix the relationship. In example #3, the teacher gave you a bad grade and you think its her fault? That's wrong because only you can control your grades it your choice if you want to ,make good grades or bad grades. And just because you get a bad grade doesn't mean you need to point fingers at others and start pointing at yourself. Brandon W.
Becoming emotionally intelligent is hard to accomplish. Sometimes things just don't seem to go our way or we can become upset over the small things that happen in our life. I believe it is important to stay positive and learn from our mistakes. The main goal should be to stay focused on the goal. Yes, we might get a bad grade on an exam or we may get cut off by the guy in front of us in line, however things will brighten up. Everyone has had a bad day once in awhile. It is important to stay positive and smile when things don't go our way. Everyone likes to be around a cheerful person or someone who makes you laugh when things go wrong. It is a good idea to surround yourself with people who encourage you when things go wrong. When things go wrong try changing your outlook in life by making a list of all the positive things that have occurred in your life. Elias Sanchez Gust(305-707)
Being emotionally intelligent in terms to being angry about the blinker. There are things that we cannot control. Yelling at someone for the lack of their driving skills, isn't going to change the outcome. Someone may not be as great or knowledgeable of a driver as you, so learn from their mistakes. When you put the blame on someone, that means you are oblivious to your problems and issues and manipulate the other person into thinking it was their issue the entire time. Taking responsibility for your actions makes you more mature, and more aware of what is right and wrong. This is common for a lot of students. It's not the teachers fault. If the student doesn't comprehend the material, it is the student responsibility to make the teacher aware, and then it becomes the teachers job to try and break down the lesson to a method that you can better understand.
Even though it can sometimes be hard to become emotionally intelligent, I think if you try to look at the positive side of things or try to stay positive, that things will work out for the greater good. But there are times that controlling emotions is the last thing on our minds because we are mad or something of the sorts, I think just by try to get your emotions in check and ask yourself what am I about to do or say can help as better become more emotionally intelligent. For number #1, I have to say I'm guilty of this sometimes, but I always tell myself that nothing happened, no one got hurt and your not hurt so everything is fine. And I would tell the same thing to the dog with road rage. I think that sometimes we make the little things in life get to use when most likely we're the ones doing the most wrong. Like in the picture, I know when driving it's very important to use a blinker, but there is always another reaction that we could use instead of yelling, we could practice becoming emotionally intelligent and count your blessings that nothing happened. For number #2, in that picture when the man is saying to the women " it's not me it's you." That is the man putting the blame on that women when first he probably didn't look at the bigger picture and see what he had to do with the situation. Second I think by being emotionally intelligent you have to allow for error in yourself and in others in which he is obviously not doing. And lastly he didn't ask what could be done with the problem he just pushed it over to someone else, and I think by putting someone else down or in shame is definitely not practicing emotional intelligence. And for number #3, when he says " Oh, so the teacher gave you a bad grade? Tell me how it's the teachers fault." I think he needs to reevaluate himself and know that it wasn't the teacher's fault that he got a bad grade, you have to put in the work and instead of talking about how angry or mad you are.Maybe he could take all that anger he is feeling and turn it into a positive and study like crazy for the next exam or quiz. And I think if you talk negatively about how bad your grades are and compare yourself to others, then you will never get good grades. because if your always thinking about your bad grades and compare yourself to others, then you will start to become angry and that causes stress and no one can work with stress.
What we can do to become more emotionally intelligent is seeing everything in a positive way, that will help a lot. In the first example the dog is mad because the person in the front didn’t put a blinker and could have caused an accident. In the second and third example instead of blaming themselves they are blaming someone else. They don’t want to take any responsibility. Melissa C. GUST 0305
A good way to become more emotional intelligent is to breath deeply. It works for me when my daughter is being fuzzy. I try to count to ten or go outside and breath fresh air. In the first example the dog is mad because another car did not use the blinker. Yes it is frustrating when other people do not have good traffic behaviors, but we need to calm down. Things like this makes us get stressed and this one little thing can ruin our morning or evening. Just let it go and keep driving safely. In example number 2 he is blaming the woman in the picture. He is not being emotional intelligent. He need to accept his mistakes and ask forgiveness when he has done something wrong. We all need to accept when we mess up. In example number 3 we always try to find someone to blame for our errors. I do not think blaming the teacher is the right way to go. Most of the time is the students fault they got a bad grade on a test. We need to be responsible for our own grades and if we do get a bad grade, we need to speak to the teacher in private to see what we can do to get a better grade next time. Iris R. GUST 0305-707
Lindsay Miller
ReplyDeleteA good way to become more emotionally intelligent is to be a more positive person overall. Being happy always makes me forget about little things that don't typically matter. In example one the dog is obviously upset because someone got in front of him without a blinker, however if he was smart with his emotions he wouldn't have to get upset over something so little. In example two as well as example three they are putting their blame on someone who doesn't deserve the blame instead of taking in consideration that possibly it could be their fault.
Becoming more emotionally intelligent can possibly be hard for some people who are not emotionally stable. Although there is obviously a better outlook for everything you do, and for every way you handle a situation.
ReplyDeleteIn example number 1, there is a dog that has road rage and is upset because the person in front of him did not use their blinker. I would tell the dog, to not get upset over it, because nothing happened. He is fine. Sometimes people make mistakes, and forget things, so if he was more understanding about the situation, he wouldn't have to be so upset and angry about it.
In example number 2 there is a person who is saying there is nothing wrong with them, and that it is all their partners fault. In order to be more emotionally intelligent about it, I would tell this person to look at the whole picture. To think about their actions, instead of completely putting someone else down, saying everything is their fault. Being emotionally intelligent can also mean understanding your faults.
In example number 3 the student is blaming the teacher for her bad grade. I would tell this student that the teacher did not take the test or do the assignment for her. She needs to take responsibility for her actions, and emotionally accept the fact that she did not get the grade she wanted, instead of throwing fingers at her teacher. She needs to get intact with her emotions, not get so angry at the teacher who is obviously there to help and teacher her, and realize that it is her own fault, and she could of done better on her own.
Danielle O'Bryant
GUST 0305:707
It is important for everyone to become emotionally intelligent. In the first picture it shows a cause of road rage and sometimes when people throw hand signs to another person or say something they can get into a fight or even shot. Its very important to always choose our battles, If we took a deep breath or said something to ourselves it would save us the trouble. In the second picture the man it proving that he has to much pride to admit that its him causing problems in the relationship. Instead of blaming her he could sit down and talk to her about why the relationship is not working. In the last picture a student is blaming the teacher, this happens a lot with students are the cause of their own failing grades. instead of the student automatically assuming it is the teacher, he or she could talk to the teacher and ask why they failed an assignment.
ReplyDeleteJenise D.
Gust 0305.707
A better way to be emotionally intelligent is to see things in a positive outcome. As in the first picture shows a road rage from a dog but what that dog should be thinking well nothing happen I should just calm down don't let your emotions control you
ReplyDeleteExample #2 It shows two couples but one is blaming the other this shows an emotional intelligence instead of blaming sit down and talk about both realize and look at the big picture.
Example #3 show that the student is throwing fingers and blaming the teacher for her bad grade but what she should be blaming is herself because she did her own test and assignments. The blaming teachers happen a lot but is because the rage of anger they have just point fingers.
Zurisaddai Ocampo
GUST 0305.707
We can become more emotionally intelligent with anger by choosing our battles. Like in the example it shows a dog mad that someone did not turn on their blinker. This can easily be solved by being thankful everyone is okay, and deciding if it is really that big of a deal to get so mad over something that is not a big deal.We can become more emotionally intelligent while dealing with owning up to our own mistakes. This can be fixed by being completely honest with ones self and their action. We can deal with depression and anxiety through emotional intelligence by finding a solution to the problem at hand. Also you can choose to be more optimistic in life so that you are not constantly down and out.
ReplyDeleteNicolas P.
Gust 03050-707
We can become more emotional intelligent by not letting the little things anger us. Also not so much blaming other people for the same things you might do.
ReplyDeleteIn example #1, yelling at someone who doesn't use their blinker does you no good. In fact most of the people that yell at other divers for not doing something are also guilty of not doing the same things drivers need to do.
In example #2, the couple is shown breaking up and saying "its not you its me" Instead they should be talking about what the problem was and if they want to fix it then they figure out a way to fix the relationship.
In example #3, the teacher gave you a bad grade and you think its her fault? That's wrong because only you can control your grades it your choice if you want to ,make good grades or bad grades. And just because you get a bad grade doesn't mean you need to point fingers at others and start pointing at yourself.
Brandon W.
Becoming emotionally intelligent is hard to accomplish. Sometimes things just don't seem to go our way or we can become upset over the small things that happen in our life. I believe it is important to stay positive and learn from our mistakes. The main goal should be to stay focused on the goal. Yes, we might get a bad grade on an exam or we may get cut off by the guy in front of us in line, however things will brighten up. Everyone has had a bad day once in awhile. It is important to stay positive and smile when things don't go our way. Everyone likes to be around a cheerful person or someone who makes you laugh when things go wrong. It is a good idea to surround yourself with people who encourage you when things go wrong. When things go wrong try changing your outlook in life by making a list of all the positive things that have occurred in your life.
ReplyDeleteElias Sanchez
Gust(305-707)
Being emotionally intelligent in terms to being angry about the blinker. There are things that we cannot control. Yelling at someone for the lack of their driving skills, isn't going to change the outcome. Someone may not be as great or knowledgeable of a driver as you, so learn from their mistakes.
ReplyDeleteWhen you put the blame on someone, that means you are oblivious to your problems and issues and manipulate the other person into thinking it was their issue the entire time. Taking responsibility for your actions makes you more mature, and more aware of what is right and wrong.
This is common for a lot of students. It's not the teachers fault. If the student doesn't comprehend the material, it is the student responsibility to make the teacher aware, and then it becomes the teachers job to try and break down the lesson to a method that you can better understand.
L. Bearden
GUST 0305
Even though it can sometimes be hard to become emotionally intelligent, I think if you try to look at the positive side of things or try to stay positive, that things will work out for the greater good. But there are times that controlling emotions is the last thing on our minds because we are mad or something of the sorts, I think just by try to get your emotions in check and ask yourself what am I about to do or say can help as better become more emotionally intelligent.
ReplyDeleteFor number #1, I have to say I'm guilty of this sometimes, but I always tell myself that nothing happened, no one got hurt and your not hurt so everything is fine. And I would tell the same thing to the dog with road rage. I think that sometimes we make the little things in life get to use when most likely we're the ones doing the most wrong. Like in the picture, I know when driving it's very important to use a blinker, but there is always another reaction that we could use instead of yelling, we could practice becoming emotionally intelligent and count your blessings that nothing happened.
For number #2, in that picture when the man is saying to the women " it's not me it's you." That is the man putting the blame on that women when first he probably didn't look at the bigger picture and see what he had to do with the situation. Second I think by being emotionally intelligent you have to allow for error in yourself and in others in which he is obviously not doing. And lastly he didn't ask what could be done with the problem he just pushed it over to someone else, and I think by putting someone else down or in shame is definitely not practicing emotional intelligence.
And for number #3, when he says " Oh, so the teacher gave you a bad grade? Tell me how it's the teachers fault." I think he needs to reevaluate himself and know that it wasn't the teacher's fault that he got a bad grade, you have to put in the work and instead of talking about how angry or mad you are.Maybe he could take all that anger he is feeling and turn it into a positive and study like crazy for the next exam or quiz. And I think if you talk negatively about how bad your grades are and compare yourself to others, then you will never get good grades. because if your always thinking about your bad grades and compare yourself to others, then you will start to become angry and that causes stress and no one can work with stress.
Natalie S. Gust(0305-707)
What we can do to become more emotionally intelligent is seeing everything in a positive way, that will help a lot. In the first example the dog is mad because the person in the front didn’t put a blinker and could have caused an accident. In the second and third example instead of blaming themselves they are blaming someone else. They don’t want to take any responsibility.
ReplyDeleteMelissa C. GUST 0305
A good way to become more emotional intelligent is to breath deeply. It works for me when my daughter is being fuzzy. I try to count to ten or go outside and breath fresh air. In the first example the dog is mad because another car did not use the blinker. Yes it is frustrating when other people do not have good traffic behaviors, but we need to calm down. Things like this makes us get stressed and this one little thing can ruin our morning or evening. Just let it go and keep driving safely. In example number 2 he is blaming the woman in the picture. He is not being emotional intelligent. He need to accept his mistakes and ask forgiveness when he has done something wrong. We all need to accept when we mess up. In example number 3 we always try to find someone to blame for our errors. I do not think blaming the teacher is the right way to go. Most of the time is the students fault they got a bad grade on a test. We need to be responsible for our own grades and if we do get a bad grade, we need to speak to the teacher in private to see what we can do to get a better grade next time.
ReplyDeleteIris R.
GUST 0305-707